When a
platform which is supposed to provide correct definitions to possibly
everything that exists in the world says that, Marriage is principally an
institution, in which sexual relationships are acknowledged, you seriously need
to reconsider the structure of society. One can have sexual relationship even
without a marriage, and then what is the need of this commitment?
One can
expect from the youngsters that they will be the one to change it but I choose
to differ. In fact they are the ones who have started believing it as the
invitation to sex. I still remember my conversation with my grandfather, he
told me once that he doesn’t care if my granny has had her lunch or not. He
doesn’t care if she is home or not. But if for a single second her breath goes
out, that his heart also skips a bit. If she doesn’t wake up on her regular
time, it makes his blood pressure high. The fear of living a single second
without him in this world, creeps the hell out of him. That’s what marriage is
all about. May be it is love or maybe he is just addicted to her, but he won’t
be able to survive without her in this world. It’s the fear of losing someone; it’s
what happens to you when you see your other half in pain. And no strong live-in
relationship can give you this.
That’s how
our grandparents used to define marriage. So definitely, the views of society
regarding marriage have evolved. The love between two people, the bond that
they used to share has faded somewhere. And what left is the fear of being
alone. The fear of dying alone, the fear of losing ones freedom, the fear of
parents. The reasons to get married are many, but the license to be able to tie
with eternity, this reason has lost somewhere.
By Rajal Brahmbhatt
